And how to survive One!!
Regular Blog readers will be aware of my Cynicism regarding Thai Ladies and indeed all Thais!! I make no apologies for my Hard-bitten attitude. As I observed to a Friend at the Park this Morning in order to survive here one has to compartmentalize Ones feeling. One takes pleasure in the Friendly Greetings of the Mainly Poorer Thais while ignoring the Snide Comments of the more literate/Sneaky Thais!!
My advice to Falangs who want to come to Thailand and have a Thai Romance is very simple make it a Part time Romance!! Never consider Cohabiting with Your Thai Lady!! Do not I beseech you even Visit Her Village far less consider living there!! In keeping at arms length from Her Family you are cutting down the chances of really Bad things happening to you.
Of Course even Falang following the advice I give above are still liable to requests for Cash being Channeled Via The Lady!! My advice here is quite straightforward if your Woman is not prepared to take No as the answer to requests for Cash ( No matter how plausible the excuse She and the Family have invented) Cut Her Loose, Hit The Road Jack,Vamoose!!!
I honestly believe that this is the only way to have a relationship with any Thai Woman. Living with, Marrying With and Buying a House for Your Thai Sweetheart are a Guaranteed Recipe for Disaster. Seriously Ripped Off Falang Ship out of Issan by the Planeload, always wise AFTER the event. There is a Saying in Scotland where I come from “Marry in Haste Repent at Leisure” this could have been invented for Thailand.
In the above Scenario you will Pay your Lady a Retainer, whether you pay her per Visit or Per Month is up to You!! While no matter how much Money you Lavish on any Thai Woman it is never quite enough ( This is like a law of Physics) if they understand that the figure you are offering is all they are going to get it is amazing how often this vastly reduced offer is accepted, albeit with the very worst of Grace!!
I understand that this type of Relationship will not work for everyone. When I see the Catastrophes which have befallen unknown numbers of Falang who have left here as Penniless Broken Men facing an impoverished and Lonely Old Age my feeling is Stuff all Romantic/Cosy notions of togetherness it simply will not work with a Thai. Rather protect your assets at all times as nobody else in the World will do this for You!!
I am sure that a Relationship like the one I am suggesting you go for is not at all what you had been Imagining and hoping for when you decided on a move to Thailand. Please believe me when I tell you that it is the only way to protect yourself in Thailand.Men who have built a House in a Thai Village I Believe possibly in 90% of instances live to regret their Actions!!
Even if the Thai Family one Marries into is not on the make every other Thai in the Village will be. Tradesmen will rip you off as they along with every other Thai Know and Resent the fact that you are a Rich Falang and their only revenge is in attempting to overcharge you!! I am sure that some of the Falang here try to buy popularity, well personally speaking I feel that what they achieve is not popularity but a reaffirmation in the Thai as to the Stupid Nature of all Falang!!!
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